Do you want a lot of toast? Or do you want a lot of butter on normal-size bread?

When we reach that point where a utility that is supposed to bring us closer to our friends actually makes us hate our friends -- and the death grip that managing them has on our time -- where will we go from there?

Call it stalking, procrastinating or friend collecting, it doesn't build real connections.

Word is getting out:

All these closed social networking silos are an evil timesink as far as I’m concerned and we definitely need to create open alternatives.

See also, from over the weekend:

Problem: People are getting sick of registering and re-declaring their friends on every site, but also: Developing "Social Applications" is too much work.

Goal: Ultimately make the social graph a community asset.

Now is the time for all good men to quit their silos and adopt an open standard. (Or is it just time to quit?)

An Unmanageable Circle of Friends